Getting Married

This week, I felt like I read so much data on how marriages can be made more difficult or even fail.  It seems that there are so many factors weighing against those who are looking for someone to marry and be with for eternity.  So much can go wrong.  That's why I thought of two major things this week that are important in keeping perspective on the marriage.  First, you have to pick the right person; the person who's going to be your best friend and absolutely committed to the relationship.  I think having a great makes all the difference.  But, of course, that doesn't mean that those who don't have a great start are doomed to failure.  It just makes it a little harder.  But it can be overcome!  This ties into the second thing I thought about this week, which was: don't focus on the small things.  Keep a wide perspective and always try to see the other side of things.  Being nit-picky doesn't scream for affection.  For me, at least, it a real turn-off.  Dr. Laura heavily advises against being a nagging wife.  And a nagging wife just focuses on the little things, not the droop in her husband's shoulders or loss of light and affection in his eye as she rails on him for something insignificant in comparison to the health of their marriage.  Focusing on the things that matter most will give us greater satisfaction in marriages.